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Decode His Body Language |
By picking up on the subtle nonverbal messages he's sending, you'll discover tons of clues about his personality and how he really feels about you. Here, you can learn everything from how he handles intimacy to whether he's lying, and more.
First-Meeting Body Language
He lifts his eyebrows. When a man sees someone he's into, he'll automatically lift and lower his eyebrows, wrinkling his forehead in the process. But you'll have to keep your eyes peeled to catch a glimpse of this telltale signal. Anthropologists call it the eyebrow flash because it's usually lightning-quick.
He stands with his legs spread apart. A guy will often stand with his legs spread apart and pelvis facing you when he's attracted to you. It's a primal, biological instinct, and most guys don't even know they're doing it.
He stands or sits with his toes pointed toward each other. This means he's feeling a little unsure of himself. So if a boy in the club is striking this pose, he's digging you but needs reassurance that the interest is mutual.
He smiles with his top lip stretched wide and his front teeth are just barely peeking through. This tight-lipped look is a polite signal that while he enjoys your company, the romantic spark may not be there. but that doesn't mean his feelings can't develop.
He holds a looong, piercing gaze. Although you may think he's smitten, he could be playing you. Holding intense eye contact for more than five sedonds doesn't happen naturally, so he may be using the look solely as a player's technique to get what he wants.
He tilts his head slightly to the side when your eyes meet. The head tilt is a subconscious come-hither signal that the guy has feelings for you. So if that man you've been meeting eyes with for the last hour gives you the head tilt, that's your cue to go in for the kill and introduce yourself.
He half smiles. There's a good chance this guy just wants a no-strings fling. "A sneerlike grin is an indication that he's not being sincere with you," points out body-language expert Patti Wood. "it's a split-face gesture: Each side of his face is telling a different story."
Dating Body Language
He sits on his hands. If a guy is sitting on his mitts, he's trying to control what's coming out of the his mouth. But this is more about withholding information. He's worried that he's going to do something that will displease you -- he wants to put his best foot forward so he's disciplining himself.
He has a big, broad expression, often with everything showing -- teeth, gums... cavities. Consider it the "Wow, you give me butterflies. I'm head over heels' smile." If it's accompanied by a hearty laugh, look out. If he were any more into you, he might drop down on one knee.
He says good-bye with a soft peck. If 9 times out of 10 he plants a soft, tender kiss on your cheek, then your beau is the sensitive type. This is a paternal gesture that shows he wants to take care of you.
He slouches his shoulders. When a man finds a woman's actions to be adorable or sweet, he gets the urge to hold her. As a result, his shoulders automatically round off as though he's about to take her into his arms. So does this mean you've suddenly lost all your seducing appeal? Not necessarily. The shoulder slump does indicate attraction but, even better, with a serious emotional undercurrent. So in the case of a long-term boyfriend, this shoulder roll is likely a sign that one of your quirks has tugged on his heartstrings. And if a brand-new dude pulls that move, chances are, he's feeling a true connection to you. So forget all the flirting formalities and be real. This lad's looking to go deeper.
He strokes his stomach. A midriff massager craves the spotlight and needs steady verbal reminders of what an absolte catch you think he is. However, when it comes to throwing fond feelings your way, this tongue-tied cutie is much more action than words. But if you want him to shower you with the affection he's capable of, you'll have to stroke his ego as often as he strokes his tummy.
He extends his palm. When a guy offers his palm to you faceup, you know hands down he's hooked. He's literally and figuratively reaching out to the person he's speaking with in an attempt to connect on a deeper emotional level. Even cooler: Our brains respond to hand gestures with heightened alertness (we have a special region that processes only hand shapes), so you'll actually feel the love.
On-the-Rocks Body Language
He shifts in his chair or taps his fingers. These nervous ticks may make it seem like he's just plain nervous, but if they're done while he's explaining himself to you, they actually indicate that he could be fibbing.
He toys with his ears or his nose. If youre guy starts toying with his ear or nose (and he doesn't have allergies), be suspicious. When a guy is being deceptive, it's common for blood to rush to his face. His nose and ears will get warm and begin to itch, causing him to unconsciously rub or scratch them.
He looks up and to the left. The next time you ask him a sticky question or he wants to explain himself to you, notice which way he looks. If his eyes move up to the right, he's recalling information from his memory. If he looks up to the left, there's a good chance that he's inventing the answer.
He averts his eyes. Because animosity is so hard to conceal, your guy will reduce eye contact. He's subconsciously aware that one peek into his peepers will reveal his inner grrr. For a clue as to whether he's miffed at you or someone else, look into his eyes (since he won't look into yours). If he stares you down the second you catch his gaze, you're probably the object of his ire.
His jaw is tense. Check out the spot where his jaw meets his cheekbone. If his mouth is rigid and you can see his jaw flexing, it's a sign he's fuming.
He covers his mouth with his hand. This guy is probably lying. When he unconsciously obstructs your view of his lips, it's a sign that he's trying to block the truth from slipping out. In addition, he might lick his lips and look away from you -- directing his eyes down and to the right.
He turns his cheek mid-convo. Occasionally averting his eyes or scanning the room is normal, but if you find yourself talking mostly to his profile, you're in trouble.
Reprinted with permission of Hearst Communications, Inc. |
| Posted on 07 Dec 2008 |
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